Written by Elisa & Lily for StyleLikeU. Originally published on June 11th, 2013.
With porn being more accepting of real women’s bodies than fashion (as recently noted by Fiona Duncan in Bullett), we, as a culture, need to get real. And Cindy Gallop says that she is going to fucking-well show us how via Make Love Not Porn, the website she started in order to combat culture’s rampant sexual miseducation. Cindy’s platform provides an open and shame-free rebuttal to the pervasive, male-dominated construct of pornography. By allowing people to upload real-life lovemaking videos, Cindy shows that sex is not choking your partner or cuming on her forehead, but is funny, beautiful, messy, glorious, wonderful, ridiculous human silliness.
Debunking assumptions is one of Cindy’s fortes. While many in the high-powered advertising world (where Cindy had an illustrious career) were wearing their version of menswear to fit in, she sealed deals with male execs in python pants and shoes that were anything but orthopedic. Just as Make Love Not Porn makes clear that women are unhappy when they don’t have an orgasm during sex, Cindy, too, makes it evident that men are more referential to a woman whose wardrobe stresses, not suppresses, her individuality (i.e. power). As someone who has made a career of understanding what people want, Cindy is someone to pay attention to. “The future is for inventing, not sitting around idly while it happens to you,” she zealously quotes Alan Kay. Her forecast? We’re on an unstoppable trajectory towards “authenticity, genuineness, and self-expression.”