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Special Report: The Future of Porn? / The Backbencher

Written by Daniel Pryor for The BackBencher.  Originally published on June 11th, 2014.


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I first came across Cindy when attending a debate at the Durham Union. The motion was ‘This House Believes Feminists Are All Too Often Sexists In Disguise’. Speaking in opposition, it was clear from the outset that she was an exciting, ambitious, and remarkably candid woman. Cindy is the creator of MakeLoveNotPorn (MLNP): a business which aims to “make real world sex and the discussion around it socially acceptable”. Last week, I spoke to her at length on Skype. She detailed criticisms of the porn industry and explained how she was hoping to turn it around.

“What happens when today’s total freedom of access to hardcore porn online meets our society’s equally total reluctance to talk openly and honestly about sex? Porn becoming – by default – our sex education, and not in a good way,” she stressed. After encountering the sexual behaviours of a generation raised on modern pornography (Cindy likes to date younger men), she decided to do something about it. Around five and a half years ago, she launched MLNP to balance the sexual myths and misconceptions generated by porn through discussion of real world sex: “actually, not all women like being bound-up, gagged, choked, raped, gang-banged, and having men cum all over them. Actually, not all men like doing that either.”

Cindy was also unashamedly graphic when launching MLNP at TED, and as a result was “the only TED speaker to have ever uttered the words ‘cum on my face’ on the TED stage six times in succession”. These unorthodox tactics appear to have worked, driving the extraordinary response to MLNP from around the world. “It went global without me doing anything about it. Every single day for the past five and a half years, I have received thousands of emails to my Make Love Not Porn inbox. They come from everybody: young and old, male and female, straight and gay, from every country in the world.” In the emails, people poured their hearts out. They talked about their sex lives and porn-watching habits. Maintaining near-total silence about our sex lives and pornography is something that almost everyone reading this can empathise with.

 

Intrigued? Read the rest of the the article about how Cindy plans to change the porn industry here!

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