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Why porn is important to moms / Mamalode

Written by Elke Govertson for Mamalode.  Originally published December 3rd, 2014.



Cindy Gallop is a TED superstar, leader in the advertising world and now, a voice for how porn is teaching misconceptions about sex. Mamalode’s publisher met her last year and their discussion about how porn impacts children (and their parents) was mind blowing.

Mamalode: Talk to us about children’s exposure to pornography.

CINDY: The average age today at which a child is first exposed to hardcore porn online is eight. Two years ago, the New York Times acknowledged this with an article When Children See Internet Pornography’ on what to do when children see Internet porn. In fact, USA Today published a global study last year that indicates the age has dropped even lower, to six.

This is not because 6-year-olds go looking for porn. It’s because of what is now inevitable in the digital world we live in today, and unfortunately cannot be prevented, no matter how much we would like it to be. It’s a function of what your child is shown on someone’s cell phone in the playground; what happens when your child goes round to a neighbor’s house—because it doesn’t matter what parental controls you have in place at home, your kids live their lives in other places; or, because this is the most wired generation ever, and in many privileged households 6-year-olds have their own iPad—a 6-year-old does something cute and innocent. They learn a new naughty word, they google it—and one or two clicks away is something they never expected to find.

At MakeLoveNotPorn we have numerous examples of this. Parents write to us all the time with these stories. A father wrote to me on Facebook last year in a message headed, ‘My wife and I cannot thank you enough for what you’re doing’. He said, “We have a 10-year-old son, and we decided it was time to have the sex talk. So I sat down with him, and he said to me, ‘Daddy, why do men wear masks when they’re having sex?’ We have parental controls on our iPad, and my son has somehow managed to find his way to a site where men wear masks when they’re having sex. We can’t thank you enough for what you’re doing. When he’s older, we’re sending him to your site.” These children can be traumatized by what they see, before they have any understanding of what sex is, and years before they ever have their own first sexual experiences. If this is not addressed, they grow up into young men who display the kind of behavior learnt from porn that inspired me to start MakeLoveNotPorn, and they grow up into young women like the one who wrote to us only a few weeks ago:

“Hi Make Love Not Porn team,

I just came across your company through a blog (swiss-miss.com) that posted a video of Cindy Gallop speaking about your mission and MakeLoveNotPorn.

As a 19-year-old, I have been in situations in which I’ve been treated like I was on the set of a porn film, treated as though I was a dummy or a doll for their experiments and re-enactments. I’m relieved to know that there are people advocating for society to recognize that porn is not the same as real-life sex. My generation needs to truly understand this.

Thank you.”

 


Read the full interview here!

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