At MLNP.tv we want to embrace and celebrate the soft cock – so much so that we created a category for when “a guy’s cock isn’t super hard but is still awesome in the extreme.” We call that softserve – sweet and delicious!
Written by Pamela Madsen for Pamela Madsen. Originally published on March 31st, 2015.
When men outreach to me; it’s usually about their fears around having and sustaining erections. Men just like women worry about being enough and getting it on. And in our culture, it’s all about penetrative sex (intercourse), big hard cocks, and staying power. But what if it’s not? What if we allowed men to feel their bodies in different ways and as a result get to experience sex in the full spectrum of intimacy and pleasure?
A hard penis is not everything when it comes to making love. It’s simply not all there is.
1. The number one myth of a soft cock is that the man is not feeling desire. There are many reasons why a man has a soft cock before or during sexual activity that has nothing to do with his desire for you. So please do not take a soft cock as an indicator that your lover doesn’t want you.
2. Soft cocks can feel pleasure and can have orgasms. Many people ignore the soft cock. If he can’t get it up, he can’t have sex or orgasms. Nonsense. The issue is that we have taught men that they are broken if they cannot get hard.
3. Men are always expected to be “penetrative” not “receptive” when it comes to sex. In other words; their job is to be the “taker” and the “giver”. He is the one who enters. During intercourse the penis may soften and along with that (if it is allowed and not shamed) a man’s heart may soften too. He may become more vulnerable with his lover and more open.
4. When men are permission-ed to experience sexuality from a place of softness it’s actually possible for them to experience what it’s like to be penetrated by his partner energetically or with his partner’s hands, or body to body. This is known as energetic sex and can be felt in the body of lovers as almost a meditative state of bliss.
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