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Ask a Porn Star: Dale Cooper / Slutever

Vera Papisova recently interviewed #realworldpornstar and MLNPstar, Dale Cooper, for Slutever. Originally published on June 10th, 2015.


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Dale Cooper is at the top of Paper magazine’s “A Guide To Hipster Porn Stars” with a 9.5/10 hipster rating.  This is partly because he gets his moniker from a character in David Lynch’s Twin Peaks, partly because he has a mustache, and partly because he’s ~an intellectual~. Woah, another porn star who says smart things and does other shit besides porn!? It’s like modern porn stars can be entrepreneurs who consider sex work just one way of making money! *face palm*

Three years ago, I started following Dale Cooper after reading an article he wrote for Huffington Post about gay men conforming to dominant perceptions of masculinity as a reaction to AIDS stigma, and how gay porn reflects this. His Twitter bio says “homosexual overlord,” and LOLs aside, it’s kind of true. Aside from porn, Dale Cooper (real name unknown) is a sexual health educator, a social worker for HIV/AIDS clients, and a fundraiser for sexual health causes and affordable housing. Earlier this month, he guest curated Wonderlust, a conscious sex festival, and he was a guest speaker at Lyst Summit, where he talked about sex in technology and games.

Dale and I talked techniques for lasting longer in bed, blow-jobs (obv), the worst thing about being a porn actor, and why the gay community hasn’t embraced PrEP, a daily medication that is over 90% effective in  preventing HIV transmission.

Vera: I want nothing more in life than to be as good at blow-jobs as any homosexual overlord. What’s your best blow-job tip?

Dale: Try asking the person who owns the penis what they like to have done to said penis. Some people like the sensation of a throaty hum, some like the balls to be played with, some enjoy manual masturbation, others prefer only mouth. Some like the sensation of a ice cube held in the mouth. If that doesn’t work, try playing with their asshole.

As a porn star, you have to be prepared for long days of filming. Do you have any advice for guys who want to last longer in bed?

I find that breath control really helps. Well, I guess I should say first that 1) there are breaks on the porn set, and 2) a lot of usage of erectile dysfunction meds. I don’t think that’s spilling any big secrets. I recommend the former–take breaks from the aggressive action and focus on some other fun sexual activities! That’s a great way to prolong the fun.

Anyway, breath control is great, as well as moderating tempo during the actual fucking. Make a joke! Laughing during sex is not only sexy but it gives everyone an orgasm of another kind. I love laughing. Sex is a very funny thing that a lot of people tend to take very seriously.

What’s the best thing about doing porn?

Snacks! I love snacks! I think I said as much already. Particularly fruit trays. And the travel. I’ve gotten to see some parts of the country and even the world because of my sex work that I never would have been able to. I’m a bit of a homebody, so having that incentive to get out (plus having it paid for) is a huge plus.

What’s the worst thing?

When there’s pressure from someone on set to move things along. As a dude in porn, my penis is not necessarily just a hydraulic organ, and nothing kills my libido faster than anyone, cast or crew, tapping their fucking foot or being impatient. It’s really terrible. Some shoots can last for a really long time, and I take it as a sign of maturity and professionalism when those involved can take that in stride and do their best to see what everyone needs to continue. I say that both as someone who has “held things up” and as someone who has been held up. I’m a chiller at heart, so that kind of energy really fucks with me.


Read the rest here! You can also watch Dale’s amazingly cinematic and popular #realworldsex videos and read his great post for this blog, Speaking Sex. If you still can’t get enough, you should follow him on Twitter!

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