Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference.

Modesty muses about Make Love Not Porn

Written by MLNPstar Modesty Ablaze for her blog Modesty AblazePublished on January 20th, 2016.


I know I’ve posted about MakeLoveNotPorn many times before, not just regularly on my own pages, but also here at Wicked Wednesday on several occasions in the past . . . So I feel a little guilty about mentioning it again. Or, if not guilty exactly, then slightly uneasy about being accused of being boring, or repetitive, or self-centered.

But . . . this week’s theme at Wicked Wednesday is “Porn” (do you watch? Does your partner? Do you mind? Do you watch it together? Do you get anything it? Do you think it is good or bad?).

So, of course, I just couldn’t resist mentioning it again . . . after all we’ve all watched it haven’t we? Certainly, I’m sure that if you are reading here then you will have watched porn . . . because it is part of everyday life isn’t it? Part of the #realworld . . . unavoidable, inescapable, constantly hinted at/flirted with, in all it’s softcore connotations in our mainstream media (television, papers, magazines, books and film) or easily accessible in all it’s hardcore connotations here on the internet (on our phones, laptops, tablets and smart televisions).

Modesty

Porn, like all entertainment-forms in our modern world, is always just a few seconds . . . a few clicks away. And that’s what it is isn’t it? . . . just entertainment?

But isn’t entertainment, by it’s very nature, an amplification . . . an exaggeration . . . of real-life? Song, words, art, film, making those moments of “entertainment” seem larger than life?

And isn’t that the attraction, the magnet, that draws us all . . . that larger than life, excitement or thrill, that we all wish for?

But, for me at least, that is also what is worrying about most mainstream(ing) available porn. It IS an exaggeration . . . it isn’t actually #realworld at all.

Most of us here will, of course, be reassuring ourselves that we realise those images twisting and writhing and jumping across our screens are just an exaggeration, just entertainment . . . something to thrill to, without actually aspiring to or demanding of our own partners and loved ones, stroke-for-stroke, thrust-for-thrust! At least I hope we all realise . . .

Modesty

Because surely the best porn of all is the porn (PurelyOutrageousReallyNatural) we make for ourselves. Porn that is exciting, satisfying, thrilling, fulfilling, respectful and LOVING with, or for, ourselves or our partners. The sort of Porn that more and more people are sharing with the world on MakeLoveNotPorn.tv . . . a place where #realworld people are celebrating having actual #realworldsex, without feeling the need (or perhaps the pressure) of having to replicate one of those “mainstream-ing sites”.

I realise that you may feel that my championing of MLNP.tv again here, and constantly on my blog-pages, is perhaps the “Pot-calling-the-Kettle-Black” or simply a case of self-promotion . . . so do please click-away now . . . because I truly do think the ethos of MakeLoveNotPorn is so important . . . and I urge everyone to spend a few moments to listen and discover more about it from the lovely Cindy Gallop and her launch of MLNP at TED2009.

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Go check out Modesty’s blog or read more from our MLNPstars in our MLNPstars Speak section!

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