Written by Laken Howard for BUSTLE. Originally published on June 3rd, 2016.
Have you ever watched porn and thought to yourself ‘That is not what real sex is like’? Although it’s nice to indulge in the fantasies mainstream pornography provides, it can be a far cry from what your day-to-day sex life looks like. Men who last hours upon hours are few and far between, as are women who can come a dozen times in a row. It’s important to separate what we see in mainstream porn from our expectations about IRL sex — and that’s exactly what MakeLoveNotPorn does.
Founded by advertising exec Cindy Gallop, MLNP is a space for people to celebrate having #RealWorldSex, just like you’d celebrate your relationship status on Facebook or a particularly fire selfie on Instagram. It’s a platform for “socially acceptable and shareable sexual content” — something that previously didn’t exist. Instead of unrealistic acting by traditional porn stars, MNLP stars are real people having real sex; sex that’s messy, silly, passionate, and everything in between. These homemade sex tapes, Gallop hopes, will help people, particularly young men, get rid of the inaccurate ideas about sex that have been ingrained in their minds.
At the NYC Porn Film Festival on Saturday, June 4, MLNP is hosting a“Social Sex Revolution” event in NYC, featuring two short talks and a screening of some of their “real world sex” films — and you can buy tickets in advance for only $12. I spoke to Madam Curator Sarah Beall to find out more about the goal of the screening, and how MLNP plans to change the way society views sex and pornography.
It’s Not Amateur Porn
MLNP wants you to know that they don’t consider their homemade videos to be ‘amateur porn’ — that implies that only porn stars are ‘experts’ at sex, which is certainly not the case. They live by the mantra: “Pro porn. Pro sex. Pro knowing the difference.” While MLNP certainly believes in having spaces for the theatrics of traditional porn outside of their site, they also think it’s crucial that people watching porn know that it’s largely acting, and that real sex doesn’t always come with all the bells and whistles.
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