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Meet Cindy Gallop: The Woman Who Thinks We Should Make Love, Not Porn / LELO

Written by Katy Thorn for LELO. Originally published on July 15th, 2016.


When discussing the effect of modern technology on our sex lives, we often focus on things such as the latest advances built into the toys we take into the bedroom, or how dating apps like Tinder and Grindr have impacted how we find partners, we often―at least when speaking about adults―forget to talk about pornography. And why would we? Explicit sexual material is by no means a modern invention; there are reliefs and carvings from ancient Egypt, Greece and India depicting all manner of sexual acts.

What’s different  now is our increased access to porn, as well as the sheer variety of it that is just 2 clicks away. What that has meant for modern sex―the good and the bad―has been talked about by sex and relationship researches and counselors when helping individuals and couples, but one woman, Cindy Gallop, has taken the direct action against the things she’s observed with the creation of the “un-porn” website, MakeLoveNotPorn.

Who Is Cindy Gallop?

Cindy Gallop began her career in advertising in the late 80s, and excelled in the industry, founding the US branch of her London firm and later earning the honor of Advertising Woman of the Year in 2003.

Just 6 years later, Gallop was giving a presentation at TEDTalk that has been called “one of the event’s most talked about.”  Her TEDTalk, which was also the launch of MakeLoveNotPorn, involved an unusually frank (for TEDTalk) discussion of how exactly she came to conceive of the project.

As Gallop explains, “[It] was an accident that came out of direct personal experience.

I date younger men, predominantly twenty-somethings. About 9 or 10 years ago – bear in mind this is long before the media ever picked up on this – I began realizing  that I was encountering an issue that would never have occurred to me if I had not experienced it so intimately: what happens when total freedom of access to hardcore porn online, meets our society’s equally total reluctance to talk openly and honestly about sex, and results in porn becoming by default the sex education of today, in not a good way.


Head over to LELO’s blog to check out the rest of the interview with MLNP founder, Cindy Gallop!

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