“Y’all. What a year.
Sometimes it’s hard to reconcile personal victories during a time fraught with so much pain for so many other people. We had a great fucking year. But fuck — what a year.
It’s been about a year since we’ve made a video or written a post, but as you all probably know, that didn’t mean we took a break from perversion. In fact, it’s really only intensified.
Two summers ago, we decided to experiment with opening our relationship to outside sexual experiences. I had a sweaty, awkward, morning tryst with a cabana boy. It was fun and satisfying, but I forgot that fucking men in their twenties often requires overcoming certain learned behaviors. (i.e., Yes, please pick me up and throw me around. No, please don’t put your thumb in my mouth like a fish hook.) Afterward, I felt guilty and confused. Rye and I got in a huge fight. I decided we might not be cut out for this.
In the fall, we had a threesome with a female friend. All three of us had a great time — she’s a woman who likes to fuck and likes to fuck her friends even more. It was sexy, less awkward, we all came hard and we’re friends to this day. Rye and I talked about how that felt like the right kind of thing to do.
Then it was winter. Winter in our new life is strange — summer is frenetic, crazed, high intensity and packed to the gills with things to do and people to see (and people whose parts you’d like to see). In winter, our business closes down for the season, as do most others. Our summer friends go back to their real lives. We read books, sit in front of the fireplace, plan trips and go down on each other a lot more. Having an extra-marital fuck date during this part of the year feels more difficult. It requires actively deciding to spend time with someone else, as opposed to the blur of the summer where having someone else to help get Rye or I off feels like a necessary service. We took that first winter off. It was all too much.”
Head over to Violet + Rye’s blog to read more about their first year opening up their relationship! See their videos for MLNP right here!