Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference.

The New Porn That’s Better for Your Health / Tonic

By Joanne Spataro for Tonic. Originally published on January 9th, 2017.


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Make Love Not Porn’s Madam Curator (curator and community manager) Sarah Beall, who’s in charge of curation and community management, would like to see more LGBTQ people submitting their videos.

“Transsexuality is very fetishized in mainstream porn, so [we are] certainly creating a space and allowing people to be themselves without fetishizing their identity or trying to fit into some kind of niche,” she says. “We don’t ask people to define themselves. We want people to be able to come to Make Love Not Porn and feel comfortable exploring different kinds of sexuality.”

One of their “Make Love Not Porn Stars” includes Von Bettie, a 27-year-old self-professed alternative femme and queer porn performer who submits videos of herself in real, everyday sex acts with her partner, Ember. Under the “Romantic” and “Joyful” category, I found this aqua and purple-haired woman embracing her body and being both hard and soft with her partner, at once rolling with her on a bed of rose petals before inserting a ball gag into her mouth and going to town on her with a strap-on.

All of this was punctuated by real sex life moments: accidentally dropping the bottle of Sliquid lube twice, laughing as they take off each other’s clothes and the pauses when they talk to each other about what to do next. Ray agrees that it’s healthier for people to watch more realistic sexual behaviors. “It normalizes people and normalizes bodies,” she says.

Watching queer women have real sex on film was better than I had imagined; I felt like I was cheering them on and getting tips I could apply in my own sex life with my girlfriend. I mentally bid farewell to those men in public restrooms I used to rely on for a quick thrill on Tumblr. I had found something that gave me a visceral reflection of my own sex life.”


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