Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference.

When Dating Younger Men Becomes a Sexual Crusade / NY Mag

Cindy and I recently sat down with Maureen O’Connor for NY Magazine’s Sex Lives podcast and to talk about Cindy’s love of younger men, the MLNP curation process, who really does the wardrobe or adult video shoots, and much more!

Originally written by Maureen O’Connor for NY Mag’s The Cut. Published on February 24th, 2017.


Last month, Cindy Gallop wrote about dating younger men for the Cut. This week, she joined New York Magazine’s Sex Lives podcast to explain how discovering sex with younger men pushed her to reinvent her career and launch a crusade to improve sex worldwide. Today, Gallop runs Make Love Not Porn, a video-sharing network that is “pro-sex, pro-porn, pro-knowing the difference.” As in, a social-media network where people show themselves having sex, as naturally as possible. Gallop and Make Love Not Porn’s chief curator, Sarah Beall, visited New York Magazine’s Sex Lives podcast to explain their company, their crusade, and the art of exhibiting “real-world sex.”

Your TED talk famously opens with you saying you date younger men. How did that come about? How long have you been dating younger men?

Everything in my life — and career included — has happened by complete accident. Fifteen years ago now I was running an ad agency here in New York, and we were asked to pitch for an online dating brand. It was coming out in the U.K. and wanted to take on Match in the U.S. market. And in advertising when you pitch for a client’s account, you have to experience the client’s product and the entire competitive landscape. So we all had to online date. And this was 15 years ago, and none of us had because it wasn’t a thing you did then.

The rest of my pitch team at the agency were all married, or they were living with or dating people. They all went online with fake identities. I was single. I thought, I have this business reason, so why don’t I do this for real? You know, we’ll find out what this thing is all about. So I posted my profile on a bunch of sites, my age included. I’ve spent most of my life being single, by the way. Very happily so. I’ve never wanted to be married, I’ve never wanted children, and I’m not really a relationship person, to be honest. So I got an avalanche of responses — very good for the ego. But much to my surprise, because I had totally not thought about this as a dating strategy, the majority of those responses were from young men.

Listen to Cindy and Madam Curator’s discussion here!

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