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Why I love Kimberly Kane: Madam Curator on watching KK’s porn and #realworldsex and why she wants more pornstars sharing their off-set sex on MLNP


In my previous life as a mainstream porn script writer — right before becoming Madam Curator — one of my fave ways to slack on the job while looking like I was working and “doing research” was to log in to the company account for Vivid and look at the arty, punky porn in their “alt” section. Here, in a small section of 2011 #pornworld was where I could find streaming videos that reminded me of gay art house filmmaker Bruce La Bruce and the feminist porn rebels who shot weird shit on camcorders in the 80s and 90s, whose work I could only find in my university’s well-stocked Film Studies resource department.

 

 

As a performer and director, Kimberly Kane definitely stood out. There were a few teen scenes with her performing that I could watch on the site I worked for, but those followed the same old script. The porn she directed for Vivid Alt was gritty and strange, and while it didn’t necessarily turn me on — the scenes often involved a lot of spit and runny eyeliner — they definitely had a distinct aesthetic, especially in the intro teasing scenes before the usual series of sex acts unfolded in the same order for the same amount of time. Think riot grrrl, or a Courtney Love lookalike having rough sex in a Berlin nightclub.

She had style, and I admired her.

Flash forward to last year when Kimberly emailed me in my role as Madam Curator, and said she had just uploaded her first submission to Make Love Not Porn. Fangirl vibes were inevitable. But I also had no idea what to expect. Another way I killed a lot of time at the porn office was by watching BTS interviews with pornstars, and I thought I remembered one with Kimberly where she said that her videos were more like performance art than a reflection of what really turned her on.
 
Although it was her idea to share something on MLNP, Kimberly was “really intimidated” by the idea of having  her personal #realworldsex on camera, and it was actually her partner, Drew, who set up the cameras for their first MLNP “shoot.”

It was sweet and understandable to hear Kimberly express some of the same reservations other MLNPstars often have — will anyone really want to watch this? Will they be bored? Will I be awkward and keep moving out of frame? What is it like to not perform for the camera when you’re so used to doing (or seeing) that? 

Luckily, it became clear pretty quickly to everyone that Kimberly didn’t have anything to worry about — her #realworldsex videos with Drew are fantastic, and very different from porn. First off, she and Drew are really in love and are very chatty during sex. They enjoy teasing each other, and Kimberly often makes hilarious and cute exclamations like, “I need a sandwich and a nap!” in the middle or at the end of their videos. Kimberly is also very loyal to her trusty Hitachi magic wand and has some clever ways of using it as an erotic torture device and during Drew’s languorous #LickJobs. As a Hitachi fan myself, I’ve learned a thing or two from her about how to wield the wand.
Kimberly and Drew seem to relax into each other when they MakeLoveNotPorn. Often, they literally exhale and say something like, “I just really need to get off today,” and then they do in their own unique, funny, passionate, loving way. Whether it’s shooting an intro while baking banana bread or getting “caught being way too extra for a selfie,” they’ve really thrown themselves in to sharing the everyday #realworldcouple side of themselves, and I’m so happy that capturing their #realworldsexlife on MLNP has had such a positive impact on them.
While I only ever worked as a writer during my stint in #pornworld, my time there definitely hit home just how scripted and predictable most mainstream porn can be. It also gave me the insight that pornstars are pretty much the experts on the differences between what it’s like to have sex on and off set — what’s actually pleasurable and what’s for show. This is why I’m always happy to have more pornstars share their #realworldsex on MLNP. It’s fun to see people who perform sex for a living just “doing them” while the cameras roll. We certainly learn something from seeing the differences, and it seems they do, too.

Read more musings from Madam Curator, here, and Kimberly and Drew’s guest posts in our MLNPstars Speak section. Or, go right ahead and watch Kimberly and Drew’s #realworldsex on MLNP.tv and check out our write up on their featured edition!

 

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