At MLNP, we want to MakeDisabledLoveNotPorn! This intro by Eva is the first in a series of posts where disabled folks take up space on our blog and talk about what it’s like to be a disabled sexual being. If you’re a disabled person interested in sharing your #realworldsex on MLNP, or sharing your story on our blog, please email Sarah@mlnp.tv.
Hey, I’m super excited to be working with Make Love Not Porn! My name is Eva and I have been in the sex ed field for over 15 years. I didn’t get into it because I wanted to help people or I was a teacher. Rather, it was because I didn’t find any applicable information for me when I was a teenager. I have cerebral palsy which affects my entire body. I use a wheelchair to get around and I’m non-verbal, so I spell out what I want to say on a letter board with a laser pointer on my hat. So in my late teens, I was looking for information about how to incorporate my disability into my sex. I also identify as queer, so that’s a whole other layer. After calling many disability organizations and asking if they have any information about disability and sex and either being told no or being hung up on, I decided to write a handbook. It talks about how to find queer-friendly aides, how to talk to your partner about your disability, how to adapt sex toys, and how to masturbate if you need assistance. Through this book, I was able to travel the country giving workshops on sex and disability. It was an awesome experience as I had people in their 50s coming to me and saying this was the first time they talked about sex ever! Now, I teach online classes on the amazing platform O.school and I’m available for private consultations. If you want to learn more, check out my website: Cripping Up Sex With Eva.